solution resistance

Audio When someone you love is struggling, you  likely want to help them feel better. It’s natural to want to “fix” things, which can lead us to giving advice more than listening. While this is understandable, it isn’t always productive.  Focusing on solutions can make it hard to focus on listening. This can inevitably lead to people feeling unheard, and for good reason.  Unfortunately, this is generally the opposite of what we want. We want our loved one to feel better, so we try to find a solution that will get them there. [...]