Your relationship will likely face many challenges, especially if you are together for a long time. Your partner may do things that offend, or even hurt you. While it is natural to feel hurt, angry and frustrated, you will need to find healthy ways to address your differences. Resolving conflict and finding a way to forgive can be freeing, but it isn’t always easy. Couples counseling can often be helpful with this. 

Avoiding problems will not solve them. When there is no closure, there is a good chance it will just stay at the back of your mind fueling anger and frustration. This can feed distrust, resentment and insecurity. These feelings may consume you and affect your behavior. It can leave you feeling anxious, even depressed. Unresolved conflict rarely leads anywhere positive, however, you don’t have to stay in this place. 

Resolving Conflict Together

When you have a good relationship with your partner, you are better able to calmly and diplomatically talk about problems. Unfortunately, not all couples are capable of dialogue without ending in a shouting match. Sometimes yelling can help to release emotions, it is cathartic. It can help you move towards the next stage of problem solving, however, most of the time it doesn’t lead to progress. 

Yelling most often leads to heated arguments that can be damaging. When blaming and defensiveness starts things rarely end well. It is difficult to find resolution when we are in this place. Counseling can help you to learn healthier ways to communicate and work toward conflict resolution. 

Conflict Resolution with a Couples Therapist

It can be challenging to resolve conflicts on your own. Unhealthy communication can sabotage your ability resolve conflict, damage trust, mar intimacy, and fuel both anger and frustration. You could likely benefit from a therapist with problem solving skills that can help you understand where you are both coming from. They can also help you to learn skills to assist you in preventing problems, resolving conflict quickly, and enjoying your life together.

A good counselor can help you both understand the root causes of your anger and frustration. Together you can learn skills and find resolution. You don’t have to keep having the same argument over and over. 

A Second Shot at Happiness

No relationship is perfect. Even the best people can have distorted opinions of what is right or wrong when emotions blur their judgment. Even a good relationship can be threatened by trials and mistakes. Getting angry is normal especially when there is a justifiable reason, but staying angry and frustrated for an extended time is not healthy in any relationship.

If you have tried solving your conflicts, but it is making matters worse, contact Carolina Counseling Services – Fayetteville, NC for help. We have therapists that specialize in relationship counseling. Let us help you put an end to your anger and frustration so you can start rebuilding a happy relationship.

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