Developing Skills for Communication and Conflict Resolution

Disagreements can be expected in any type of relationship, romantic relationships especially. Conflict can arise over just about anything, ranging from parenting to difficulties with in-laws and financial problems. It doesn’t necessarily mean that disagreements will automatically jeopardize your relationship. In fact, relationship counselors consider disagreements to be a healthy element that can actually bring a couple closer to each other. This is particularly true when you develop healthy communication and conflict resolution skills.

Unresolved conflict can cause irreparable damage to a relationship, but it doesn’t have to. Regardless of how long a disagreement has plagued your relationship, it can be addressed and resolved. This can be difficult to do on your own, therapy can help. 

When Your Communication Style Isn’t Working

Communicating can be difficult, even with those closest to us. Sometimes it can feel easier to avoid voicing our concerns and opinions, especially when we are worried about how our partner may react. While this may seem to work well in the short run, you are likely setting yourself up for long term consequences. 

It is rare that someone will know just what to say and how to say it without learning communication skills. Unfortunately, many expect themselves to magically develop these skills and know all the right things to say. Therapy can help you to learn ways to effectively communicate what you are feeling and needing in your relationship. Finding the right counselor can make a huge difference. 

Know When Your Approach Isn’t Working

Unfortunately, most avoid conflict and hope that it will improve on it’s own. When it doesn’t we become angry and resentful, voicing our concerns when we are angry and in ways we aren’t proud of later. Sound familiar? 

If it does, you aren’t alone. Resolving conflict can be hard and it can help to have a non-bias third party, like a therapist. In counseling you can learn conflict resolution skills and begin tackling disagreements that have been present for quite some time. It’s never too late to talk things out and find better ways to move forward, together. 

Where to Start

Don’t wait for conflict in your relationship to become too hot to handle. When things become overwhelming, consider reaching out to a therapist. Carolina Counseling Services – Fayetteville, NC contracts with licensed counselors and therapists who can assist you in developing healthy communication and conflict resolution skills. 

Don’t wait for things to get worse. Call CCS today to schedule your first appointment. Online counseling and in person sessions are available.

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