What are the Signs of an
Unhappy Marriage?

Do you fear that you have an unhappy marriage and that you need marriage counseling? How would you know that you need help? What are the signs that say you have a troubled marriage?

  1. Frequent emotional outbursts. When your reaction to every minor conflict is argument, shouting, rage, hurling of below-the-belt words, etc., it looks like your patterns of interaction is not healthy. Creating healthy dynamics between you is basic to a satisfying marriage.
  2. Absence of honesty and trust. There can be no healthy relationship without trust, and trust is something that grows with honesty. These, along with respect and love, are the pillars of a happy union. These can be the gains you can earn from marriage counseling.
  3. Inability to move past a mistake. When a mistake, like infidelity, stands firmly between the two of you, it would be difficult to bounce back from the failing marriage on your own, Forgiving is not something you or your spouse can do, especially when there is perceived betrayal.
  4. A change in focus. Marriage may not be the sole reason for existence, but it should rank high in your list of priorities in life. You may not tell other that, but you still do it without being told because that is love. When something or someone else gets that priority, you can struggle with emotional disconnection.
  5. Losing the ‘magic touch.’ These are the loving, intimate moments and gestures that improve the bond of a couple. If you struggle with actions of affection, it can be tough to share the complexities of a union with the significant half.
  6. Poor verbal exchange. Talking is important and basic to a satisfying marriage, just as listening. When there is poor communication – talking and listening – in a marriage, it would be difficult to build a strong foundation for a union. This is usually among the first things assessed by a marriage counselor once you decide to seek help from a counselor.
  7. Diminishing appreciation. Love allows you to see the good things in the person you love. When you start losing your appreciation for your husband or wife’s worth in your life you can stop acknowledging their efforts and presence.
  8. Selfish acts. When you or your spouse puts your or his/her needs over the other significant half, it is a selfish act that refutes the marriage vow. Selfishness sly monster that can trash your marriage, making you lose respect for the needs of the other.

Are any of these present in your marriage? If there are more, your marriage can be in distress. Marriage counseling and couples therapy are available in Carolina Counseling Services – Fayetteville, NC.

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