Adults

Why is Saying No So Hard?

No is such a simple word, yet it can be so difficult to say. If saying no is complicated for you, you are in good company. Finding out what makes it particularly difficult for you to say no can make a huge difference.  Why is Saying No So Hard? There can be a number of reasons for us to shy away from saying no. Assertiveness is difficult and going along with things, saying yes all the time, can sometimes feel easier. It is easier, until it’s not. Every time we say yes to something we [...]

Summer Time Mental Load and Invisible Labor

Summer can be an exciting time full of relaxation and adventure. Many look forward to this season, filled with lazy, sunny days. While this can be the case for many, it can also be a really overwhelming time for those that carry the majority of the mental load in their household.  While summer can be filled with vacations and relaxing, someone has to plan the vacations and do ALL the things to make it happen. You don’t simply decide to go on vacation and magically you’re there. You must decide where to go, book flights, [...]

What is Mental Load?

Being an adult today often means that you are excessively busy. There can be many responsibilities and so many things to balance; work, homelife, relationships, wellness, the list can seem never-ending. If you feel like you are on a tightrope while trying to juggle you certainly aren’t alone. Many of these responsibilities are evident and even visible to others. What is not is the mental load. This term has been made more popular as of late, though that doesn’t mean you know exactly what it is.  What is Mental Load? Mental load refers to the [...]

How Mental Load Affects Your Mental Health

Life is full of responsibilities. Some of them are visible and some are not. The visible responsibilities we may have are going to work, taking care of pets and children, keeping up our homes etc. People can see these tasks and they can be tiring but perhaps not as tiring as some of the more invisible responsibilities that we have.  These often quiet, invisible tasks are what we call “mental load”. This is all the behind the scenes work we do in order to execute tasks and keep things moving along. If you are going [...]

Creativity Unwrapped: Finding Your Flow This Holiday Season

When life feels overwhelming, finding small ways to escape can provide much-needed relief. Whether you’re navigating anxiety, depression, or trauma, creativity and personal interests are powerful tools for self-care and healing. Creativity doesn’t have to mean traditional hobbies like painting or playing music. It can include simple pleasures—watching a favorite TV show, experimenting in the kitchen, or journaling thoughts you’ve been carrying for too long. Creative Healing Engaging in activities you enjoy isn’t just a distraction—it’s a way to reset your mind and body. Creative and leisure activities activate the brain’s reward system, releasing dopamine [...]

September is Suicide Prevention Month

September is Suicide Prevention Month. Suicide is such a difficult topic to discuss, which is why many people don’t talk about it. Unfortunately when we don’t know what to say, we tend to not say anything at all. While this is understandable, it rarely helps anything.  There are many warning signs that may indicate that you or someone that you love is having thoughts of suicide. These signs can range from feelings to behaviors. The National Institute of Mental Health (HIMH) identifies these warning signs  as follows; Talking about wanting to die Expressing excessive guilt [...]

You Are Doing Enough

It seems that there is always more to do. Even on our most productive days, we can find ourselves thinking of all the things we “should” have done, all that is left to do, and perhaps even believing that we aren’t doing enough.  I’ve said it before (and I will certainly say it again): these days we tend to wear our overwhelm like a badge of honor. We often find ourselves evaluating how much we are doing compared to others, always striving to do the most, and to be the most exhausted. As if that [...]

Boundaries Aren’t Punishment

Setting boundaries is challenging for a lot of people. There are a lot of reasons for this. Even when we want to say no and set limits, it can be difficult to put our plan into action. A major reason many of us shy away from setting boundaries is that they can sometimes feel like punishment. No matter who you are, being told no doesn’t feel amazing. We know we need to hear it sometimes,  but that doesn’t mean we want to. Let’s dive in.  What are Boundaries? Boundaries are a great way to set [...]

Creating Your Own Practice of Mental Health Awareness

May is Mental Health Awareness month. While it is important to address your mental health every month of the year, this month it is being talked about more than ever.  Increasing awareness can be amazing. It can generate powerful and beneficial conversations. Unfortunately, many of us stuff our feelings away and avoid addressing symptoms when they arise. Awareness can help people to identify problems before they become too big to ignore. Things don’t have to become catastrophic before you ask for help.  Cultivating Routine Awareness Checking in with yourself and becoming more aware of your [...]

Solution Resistance: When Nothing Seems to Work

Audio When someone you love is struggling, you  likely want to help them feel better. It’s natural to want to “fix” things, which can lead us to giving advice more than listening. While this is understandable, it isn’t always productive.  Focusing on solutions can make it hard to focus on listening. This can inevitably lead to people feeling unheard, and for good reason.  Unfortunately, this is generally the opposite of what we want. We want our loved one to feel better, so we try to find a solution that will get them there. [...]

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Zip Codes: 28301, 28302, 28303, 28304, 28305, 28306, 28307, 28309, 28312, 28314

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1310 Raeford Rd, Suite 2, Fayetteville, NC 28305
  (910) 485-6336

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6321 Raeford Rd, Fayetteville, NC 28304

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235 Commerce Street Greenville, NC

(252) 832-8814

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PO BOX 9909  Fayetteville, NC 28311

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