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When you were younger and occupied with raising a family or becoming successful in your chosen career, time flew so fast. Following the normal bell curve of life, time seems to slow down as you get older, and you have more of it for other things. After an active life, an active retirement could be the next big thing to look forward to.
You may have promised yourself you’ll have a ball when retirement comes, but find depressive feelings—gloom, boredom, etc.—seem to occupy you more and more. Coming home to an “empty nest” or spending another holiday alone may make you sad. Aren’t you done with all the mess and noise that the children used to make? Aren’t peace and quiet bliss?
You could be wondering, are you just missing those “good old days”? If you feel like you’ve lost your zest and vitality for life, rediscovering purposeful aging with the help of a counselor could help.
With the baby boomers entering retirement, aging is getting more and more attention from scientists and medical experts who are focused on the promise of longer lives. Other experts take an interest in improving and enriching the lives of the aging population. All these provide good reasons for you to believe that the retirement age isn’t the beginning of “twilight,” but, in fact, a time for new beginnings.
That optimistic insight may seem meaningless to aging adults who feel like they have no purpose once their children have flown away to build their own nests. When you are sad and alone, it can be difficult to accept the potential of aging. “Aging experts” believe, though, that with purposeful aging and despite many risks, “new possibilities for older adults hold promise for strengthening societies, expanding economies and improving life for all ages.”
These days, retirement is increasingly viewed as a time of life with many options and possibilities. Gone are the days when life after retirement was a silent journey toward calmness and restfulness. There is more to aging. Your pursuits may not necessarily be active, but they can be meaningful and heartwarming.
You can follow dreams that you shelved a long time ago in favor of more lucrative or practical pursuits. This can give you the purpose to lead a meaningful and rich life after retirement. If you find yourself at a crossroads as an aging adult and you’re confused about which way to go, a counselor can assist you in rediscovering a purpose.
If you find aging a horrible experience, then you may have lost the sense of purpose in your life. You may not realize that many life-enriching opportunities can unfold as you get older. For you to see and experience these, however, you have to discover a new life purpose.
Having a purpose is powerful: it is uplifting and it can change your perceptions and your life in a significant and meaningful way. According to an article by Next Avenue for Forbes, “Purpose enhances psychological and physical health, and is correlated with greater productivity, creativity and resilience. People with purpose tend to be more involved with their families, communities and colleagues.”
Rediscovering purpose is healing. Patrick L. Hill and Nicholas A. Turiano, authors of a study published in Psychological Science (2014), say, “Having a purpose in life has been cited consistently as an indicator of healthy aging for several reasons, including its potential for reducing mortality risk.” It can be likened to discovering a “fountain of youth.” It can make you feel younger and stronger, and be a mitigating force that can slow down age-related ailments.
Rediscovering purpose after retirement can help you make a smooth transition. It can change you and how you interact with your family, friends, and the rest of the community and the world. It can motivate you to reach out beyond your cocoon and comfort zone. It can serve as a potent source of motivation to change and make change, leading to the discovery that life after retirement can be as rewarding, even if it’s a bit different.
Have you stopped an artistic pursuit despite your passion for it—dancing, singing, painting, etc.? Why not dance to the beat of the music again, rediscover the notes and melodies you love so much, or mix colors to express the artistry coursing through your veins? Or why not travel and experience cultures around the world, be a volunteer, or help others?
After your children have grown, being alone in retirement can be terrifying. If you have a sense of purpose, you won’t be as afraid or lonely, because you understand that you’re blessed with additional years for an important reason. If you are struggling with finding purpose in your senior years, do some soul-searching, or better yet, call Carolina Counseling Services in Fayetteville, NC, to seek the help of an experienced, independent life coach or counselor. If the life transition is causing an emotional crisis, rediscovering purposeful aging can be your nirvana.
There’s no limit to your purpose. Continue the interrupted hobby you were once so passionate about. Care for your grandchildren. Cook soup for orphans or the homeless. Go back to school and learn a new skill. Try something different.
An independent counselor contracted with Carolina Counseling Services in Fayetteville, NC, can help you realize that there is a beautiful world and more in life to discover after retirement. Looking for something to look forward to and live for? Call CCS in Fayetteville, NC. It is time to talk and resolve the transition to your new life.
Carolina Counseling Services contracts independently with Licensed professional counselors/therapists/psychologists who provide a friendly, relaxed atmosphere to everyone. Carolina Counseling Services independently contracted therapists assist individuals, couples, families, and children with counseling services that will help put your life back on track. Working with both non military and military is a joy and the therapist you choose will be happy to assist you whether you are a "civilian", or if you are a dependent or retiree.
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