Carolina Counseling Services - Living with a Spouse Refusing Counseling
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- Call: (910) 485-6336 (Fastest way to schedule)
- Text: (910) 308-3291 (Reply will be via phone)
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- Appointment scheduling for NEW clients: Mon-Fri 8:30am-5:15pm
- New client appts may be scheduled when therapists have openings, which may include daytime, evenings and weekends.
- Established/Standing Appointments are made directly with your therapist!
- Some Therapists schedule appointments Mon-Fri 8am-8pm and Saturdays (if requested)
- Referrals: MOST beneficiaries do NOT need a Referral!
- 1310 Raeford Rd Suite 2 Fayetteville, NC 28305
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Living with a Spouse Refusing Counseling
When a spouse from a troubled marriage refuses marriage counseling, the usual opinion is that this marriage is already doomed. Perhaps, your chance of improving your marriage has lessened, but all is not lost. There’s a window of opportunity to explore - yourself. Why is this so?
You have been very busy being a parent, a career person, a mate. Are these the order of priorities or are these roles interchangeable depending on the situation? You may have been too busy to “stop, look, and listen” and let things slide. Being confronted with certain issues in relationship, you suddenly find the need to go into counseling. It’s a one-way street as your spouse refuses to join you. Much as you want to know what went wrong, so should you understand why spouses, generally, refuse to “cooperate”.
No person is perfect, so people should not expect marriage to be one - free of quarrels, frustrations, even of anger and dispiritedness. That’s missing the point as all that happens in any relationship. It is more of avoiding issues and working on ways to address them. To do so is to admit there’s trouble. Your spouse may be adamant in believing there’s nothing worthy to bother about.
The Blame Game
Accusing tones and irritating body expressions send a message of blame and finger pointing. Right or wrong, this is a scenario many spouses anticipate so a counseling setting is not welcome. Perhaps, that is not new as you may have behaved like that in many occasions.
Marriage counseling is anticipated to become a war room – each one trying to get sympathy for oneself. An aggrieved spouse may think the other will try to “sweet talk” the counselor and places such importance to an ability to swing people to his/her side. (A good marriage/family counselor does not take sides.)
No Matter What
These are misconceptions about marriage counseling. An experienced and highly-skillful counselor can put all these in the right perspective. It will not only allow you to understand the behavior of your uncooperative spouse, but can increase your resolve to go on with counseling. Coming to sessions alone is fine also as it is no longer trying to let your spouse accede to your points of view. Rather, it allows you to come to terms with your own contributions to the relationship, your own faults, strengths and weaknesses and accept the challenge to make the changes in yourself, which will quickly overlap onto the marriage relationship.
Counseling sessions allow you to go through certain phases in order to validate yourself as a person. Professional, licensed counselors at Carolina Counseling Services aim to guide you in handling marital stresses and not losing your own perspective in the process. When you are free of defensiveness, change is no longer fearful. This may result to a restful ambiance around you that may pique the interest of your spouse and may result in their own changes for the better.
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Confidential / Private Sessions
Carolina Counseling Services contracts independently with Licensed professional counselors/therapists/psychologists who provide a friendly, relaxed atmosphere to everyone. Carolina Counseling Services independently contracted therapists assist individuals, couples, families, and children with counseling services that will help put your life back on track. Working with both non military and military is a joy and the therapist you choose will be happy to assist you whether you are a "civilian", or if you are a dependent or retiree.
Counseling and Therapy are often used interchangeably in our English language. The same is true for Counselor and Therapist. It really doesn't matter which word you use. When you need help, it is best to talk to someone who is not only objective, but who has had lots of experience helping others who have been in similar situations as yourself. A friendly Counselor or Therapist who is trained, licensed and experienced is the one who can assist the most. You don't have to figure it out alone. All independently contracted therapists are licensed, friendly professionals. Call to schedule your appt now!
If we can't help you, we will be happy to refer you to someone who can. We look forward to assisting you!!!.
Evening and Weekend Appts Available with specific therapists
Evening and Weekend appointments: We have therapists available for appointments from 8am to 8pm Monday through Friday. Some therapists have Saturday appointments available if requested.
Serving Areas: Carolina Counseling Services
Counties: Cumberland, Hoke, Bladen, Sampson, and Robeson Counties, NC
Areas: Fayetteville NC, Ft Bragg NC, Pope Field NC, Hope Mills NC, Raeford NC, Rockfish NC, Sliver City NC, Cedar Creek NC, Bowmore NC, Autryville NC, Parkton NC, Bunnlevel NC, Erwin NC, Dundarrach NC, Broadway NC, Pineview NC, Lumber Bridge, NC, Rex NC, Lemon Springs NC, Johnsonville NC, Eastover NC, Stedman NC and Wade, NC.
Military Community areas: Ardennes NC Bataan NC, Casablanca NC, Anzio Acre, NC, Corregidor NC, Bougainville NC, Hammond Hills NC, Nijimegen NC, Cherbourg NC, Normandy NC, Bastogne NC, Pope NC, Ste Mere Eglise NC,
Zip Codes: 28301, 28302, 28303, 28304, 28305, 28306, 28307, 28309, 28311, 28312, 28314