Carolina Counseling Services - Stopping Overwhelm While Juggling Motherhood and Work
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- 1310 Raeford Rd Suite 2 Fayetteville, NC 28305
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Stopping Overwhelm While Juggling Motherhood and Work
Balancing work and family are very challenging responsibilities, especially for moms. Doing so can bring in a lot of difficulties into a marriage and to parenting. Unfortunately, juggling motherhood and work aren’t something that all women can avoid. Seeking a job or career to keep the family financially afloat and sustaining one’s personal growth and ambition to fulfill an emotional need are common reasons why women must juggle the two acts.
There are benefits when you work or maintain a career, but that can also mean a tradeoff. With all the responsibilities you have at home, including raising your children, which can go beyond toiling domestic work, the chance of becoming overwhelmed is high. Many unforeseen events can complicate your life, difficulties in the life of a child, a job promotion entailing new tasks, etc. Caught in this situation, juggling the two roles can cause you to wonder: how to do both without succumbing to overwhelm?
Women Can’t Have It All?
Even in these modern days of women’s emancipation, women still encounter many obstacles achieving everything they want. Why? Because time just isn’t just enough, despite technologies and great time management skills. In addition, they “can’t just reinvent the wheel.” It is still common in many cultures that women take an active role in raising children and housekeeping. The roles become more demanding for those who are meticulous and if the family has specific needs.
According to an analysis made by the Harvard Political Review of the book by Anne-Marie Slaughter entitled Slaughter’s ‘Why Women Still Can’t Have It All,’ “Women have… the incompatibility of achieving professional success and fulfilling traditional expectations of parental roles...” Aside from the challenges presented by parenting and marriage at home, the job can also be demanding in many ways. In addition, women are faced with additional difficulties at work, including social pressure, sexism in the workplace, dissimilar demands contingent to the nature of their work, etc.
The discovery that “they can’t have it all” usually comes later when women are already overwhelmed. After having a child and dazed with sleeplessness, numerous maternal tasks, unmet expectations, baby blues, raging hormones, and bodily changes, it is common for them to feel jumpy, unsure, sad, and even guilty. As the baby’s needs - immunization and medical check-up, and teething discomfort - coincide with the work-related tasks, overwhelm takes shape, not just as a possibility but a reality. This continues with complicating or additional tasks, if they do not take care of their emotional issues.
The Thing Called Overwhelm
The balancing act of juggling a job/career and home can lead to “burn out,” even the most efficient women. Eager to meet expectations, hurrying to finish tasks with promptness and adroitness can drive your stress level high. You would likely feel the signs of burnout – diminished energy, taut nerves, poor concentration, and declining interest in many things. Stress can impact, not only your mind and body, but your productivity as well.
There is no question that having so much on your plate can spur you into action. With the signs of burnout, however, you will most likely feel demotivated, unable to focus, and edgy, so you may not accomplish much. When overwhelmed, you may become irritable as well, running the risk of snapping at others. With poor focus, your risks for mistakes and accidents can be higher. It also isn’t good for your health and immune system, resulting in your being prone to infections and cardiovascular conditions.
If you are passionate about your career, you may not easily receive the promotion you are working for. Studies reveal that it can be more difficult for women to advance in their careers when their time and attention are divided between their careers and their children/marriage. One is likely to take a “back seat.” Since it is common for women to place their children and marriage above all else, it isn’t surprising if their careers take the backseat of their lives.
Do You Fit the Profile of an Overwhelmed Mom?
If you are reading this article, you could be juggling motherhood and a job/career. If you often find yourself making sacrifices or tradeoffs, or you always feel guilty, you could be experiencing overwhelm. If you often let your children get away with minor misdemeanors because you feel you aren’t always there for them, it is a sign of guilt. If you give in to what they want to make up for your absences during important occasions – graduation or birthdays – that’s an effort to assuage your guilt.
If you are overwhelmed or burned-out, you can perform more poorly as a mother/wife and as a worker. This is a valid reason to seek counseling. Do you wonder when is the right time to call for an appointment? The best thing to do is to nip overwhelm right in the bud. Talk to a counselor as soon as you notice those guilt signs. You must also pay attention to the seven signs of mom overwhelm. According to psychologist Dr. Sheryl Ziegler in her Working Mother post, these signs include:
- You constantly question why you do what you do, and no longer take joy in work you once loved.
- You think what you do (paid work or staying home with your kids) may not be worth the stress it causes or the money you earn.
- You still wonder who you will be when you “grow up” because, even at this age, you don’t feel like you are able to achieve what you want in life—whether it is financial success, recognition, or enjoyment.
- You feel time is running out to achieve your dreams, and you don’t know the next steps to take to accomplish them, in your profession or your personal life.
- You feel like you should be working if you are at home with your kids and vice versa.
- You wonder about the purpose of life in general and constantly question if doing something different will bring you closer to clarity.
- You secretly have something you want to do in life—start a business, write a novel, go back for your graduate degree, run a marathon—but it feels too big to even attempt.
Restoring the Balance with Counseling
Recognizing the signs of overwhelm promptly and seeking professional help can save you from “mommy burnout.” These can help restore your productivity while striking that fragile balance between your family life and job or career. Though there can be some healthy lifestyle adjustments that you can do, talking about your issues with a right-fit, counselor independently contracted with Carolina Counseling Services - Fayetteville, NC can be the best thing to do to restore balance in your life.
Creating tradeoffs to be both a mother/wife and a worker can be inevitable at times, but you can pursue both. Many women have shown that they can, and you can too if you have someone to help you strike that delicate balance. With the help of a counselor independently contracted with CCS – Fayetteville, NC you can save your passion without losing sight of your goals and purpose in these two areas of your life. Reach out for help. There is a counselor who can assist you with stopping overwhelm and to help you be emotionally fit to perform your two roles capably. Call us today to schedule your first appointment.
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Carolina Counseling Services contracts independently with Licensed professional counselors/therapists/psychologists who provide a friendly, relaxed atmosphere to everyone. Carolina Counseling Services independently contracted therapists assist individuals, couples, families, and children with counseling services that will help put your life back on track. Working with both non military and military is a joy and the therapist you choose will be happy to assist you whether you are a "civilian", or if you are a dependent or retiree.
Counseling and Therapy are often used interchangeably in our English language. The same is true for Counselor and Therapist. It really doesn't matter which word you use. When you need help, it is best to talk to someone who is not only objective, but who has had lots of experience helping others who have been in similar situations as yourself. A friendly Counselor or Therapist who is trained, licensed and experienced is the one who can assist the most. You don't have to figure it out alone. All independently contracted therapists are licensed, friendly professionals. Call to schedule your appt now!
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Evening and Weekend Appts Available with specific therapists
Evening and Weekend appointments: We have therapists available for appointments from 8am to 8pm Monday through Friday. Some therapists have Saturday appointments available if requested.
Serving Areas: Carolina Counseling Services
Counties: Cumberland, Hoke, Bladen, Sampson, and Robeson Counties, NC
Areas: Fayetteville NC, Ft Bragg NC, Pope Field NC, Hope Mills NC, Raeford NC, Rockfish NC, Silver City NC, Cedar Creek NC, Bowmore NC, Autryville NC, Parkton NC, Dundarrach NC, Broadway NC, Lumber Bridge NC, Rex NC, Eastover NC, Stedman NC
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Zip Codes: 28301, 28302, 28303, 28304, 28305, 28306, 28307, 28309, 28312, 28314